You’ve just got engaged and you”re eager to start the wedding planning — especially sending wedding save the dates, to ensure that everyone will hold your date! Before you jump the gun and act too quickly, you need to make sure you have a few details covered before you rush into sending wedding save the dates. Over the years, we’ve compiled a list of wedding save the date etiquette, the things you need to know before sending anything!
First, it goes without saying that you need to know a few details of your wedding before you can even begin a save the date. The basic wedding save the date information is:
- Couples name — yes, this seems basic. BUT, you’d be surprised how many excited brides forget this information on the first proof!
- Wedding location (at least the city/state/country) — postcard save the dates a popular way to announce your upcoming wedding. Sure, there is typically an image of your location on the front, however, the actual city name and state or country is important for your guests. Knowing a more exact location can give your guests a better idea of their travel arrangements and saving for them.
- Wedding date (or travel dates if it’s a cruise or packaged vacation deal) — We’re pretty sure that you can’t tell you guests your wedding date enough. Double check the date with your venue as well — especially if you’re planning a destination wedding. We’ve had several clients that assumed they were getting married on a Saturday, but it was really a Friday night. It doesn’t hurt to ask twice!
- Wedding website — A wedding website is optional, but if you’re planning to do one, secure the domain before sending your save the dates. By doing so, you’ll give your guests more time to visit your site, learn more about your wedding and excite them about your big day!
Outside of the basic information that goes on the wedding save the date, you’ll also need a guest list. Now, here is where save the date etiquette really comes in to play — we said guest list, not a head count. While you might know how many guests your venue will hold, it’s not the same as your guest list. Wedding etiquette states that those guests sent a wedding save the date, should also be sent a formal wedding invitation. SO, if you’re not 100% sure that you’re inviting your second cousins, everyone from your office or your elementary school friends, don’t send them a wedding save the date! We can’t stress enough to have your guest list finalized BEFORE ordering your wedding save the dates!
The next big question is when to send your wedding save the dates — the sooner, the better. For a destination wedding, we recommend sending save the dates 6 months in advance. However, if your guests have to book and pay for their travel well before the wedding date, you should give them as much time as possible. If you’re having a local wedding, with few guests traveling, when you send the save the dates is up to you — you just want to make sure that they go out well before the formal wedding invitation.
Lastly, have fun with your wedding save the date. Typically, this is the less-formal piece of wedding stationery. Feature an engagement image of the two of you, get creative with the wording, or personalize it with local icon. Make your wedding save the date something that will excite your guests!